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Liar, Liar…

"Iam not a crook.” “That dress looks great on you." Some lies have biggerconsequences than others, but at some point, we've probably all toldone. In fact, according to a Cornell University study, people lie inroughly 25 percent of their daily interactions. How can you tell ifsomeone's trying to deceive you or if they're telling the truth? Here,we pinpoint a few common signs.

• Inconsistencies. One of the easiest, and most reliable, waysto catch a liar is to identify inconsistencies in their story—detailsthat just don't jive with common sense, prevailing logic, or societalnorms. For example, if your date claims he's as rich as Bill Gates butdrives a Hyundai, you can bet he's telling a tall tale.
• Eye contact. When it comes to lying, the eyes can be a deadgiveaway. Generally, liars avoid eye contact, but if you're dealingwith a seasoned fabricator, he or she might stare excessively. Inaddition, most people's pupils dilate when they're lying because theiradrenaline rises. According to an FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin,liars may also blink rapidly or close their eyes for slightly prolongedperiods in an attempt to block out auditory or visual stimuli.
• Contradictions. As they weave their tales of deceit, liarstypically forget a few details along the way and reveal some tellingcontradictions. For example, if a friend backed out of your weekendplans because she supposedly had a life-threatening illness and laterdescribed the weekend as "wonderful," consider it a red flag.
• Stammering or scrambling. The majority of liars, especially under questioning, will utter a lot of nervous ahhs, umms, and wellsin an effort to buy time and save face. When confronted withparticularly tough questions, they may also scramble for flimsyrationales and far-fetched excuses to reinforce the lie.
• Changes in body language. There are a number of nonverbal cuesthat can signal deceit. Look for signs in the suspected liar's facethat they're hiding, suppressing, or faking a spontaneous expression.And beware of those who touch their lower faces often, scratch theirnoses, or hide the hands behind their backs or in their pockets.
• Shifting vocal patterns. According to experts, inconsistentvocal patterns are extremely common among dishonest people. In themidst of a lie, the pitch and tone of their voices may change on adime, and the rate of their speech may suddenly slow down or getquicker.
• Changing the subject. When trying to detect deception, watchout for this common tactic. For example, if you ask your boss aboutthat raise she promised six months ago, and she starts to talk aboutthe weather, you have to question her motives. After all, why would aliar subject herself to 20 questions when she can just pull aswitcheroo?
• Props. According to the FBI Bulletin, deceivers oftenuse "soda cans, computer screens, and other objects, both large andsmall, to form a barrier between themselves and investigators." Inaddition, pay close attention if the suspected liar is playing withobjects such as a purse or pen.
• Inappropriate emotion. Beware of exaggerated emotion, anger,and defensiveness. (Remember former President Bill Clinton'sfinger-wagging, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman"?).Along these lines, claims of moral outrage and superiority can be asure sign that something's awry.
• Too much information. If a suspected liar's story isexcessively detailed, it should make you doubly skeptical. Chances are,the liar is hoping they can cover all their tracks, leaving no room fordoubt. It's especially fishy when too much information is given inresponse to an otherwise routine question like, "Where were you?"

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kittytreats
May. 23rd, 2008 03:32 am (UTC)
lol I have such a hard time from keeping myself from saying "uuuuuuuuuuuumm" during my interviews.
aubkabob
May. 27th, 2008 04:41 pm (UTC)
Meeee, tooo. I also have a very short attention span at times, and it's hard to keep myself from my mind and eyes wondering elsewhere while talking to people at times.
sweet_tiff4prez
May. 23rd, 2008 02:22 pm (UTC)
my brothers friend Kevin is a pathological liar.
my brother tells me stories on how his friend lied about getting a bj from a girl in junior high , lied about losing his virginity in high school, lied saying his gf cheated on him when actually she broke up with him. Theres others.

The biggest one was recently. His friend plays a guitar. Anyways well he had a cd and said that he used some comp software to mix music with his guitar. I guess he hooked up his guitar to the comp.

He gave the cd to my brother and my dad to listen to it . My dad likes jazz music and his friend said he had a jazz track on it.

Well weeks later my brother let his other friend listen to it. His other friend told my brother that Kevin stole music from the guitarist from megadeath or something like that. I guess the guitarist had some solo album.

He didnt mix anything. All he did was steal the music off the comp and then rename the songs.

Whats sad about it is that his friend Kevin gave his mom, dad , grandma and grandpa the cd and they were like,"wow u r good."

lol He would have been sued if he actually like sold the cd.
aubkabob
May. 27th, 2008 04:43 pm (UTC)
OMG, makes you almost wish he would have TRIED to sell it! I don't know if I've come across soooo many pathological liars in my lifetime, but if someone tells me something even SLIGHTLY outlandish, I don't believe them (but go along with the story) until proof is given. This even applies to extremely good friends that I've known for yeeeears.
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