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Sep. 27th, 2005

thinking of shallowly doing a friends cut, as i just breached the 400 friends of point, and it's getting a tad ... difficult... to keep up. i know that there's quite a few dead journals on my friends list that haven't updated since 2003 (oh how i wish a purge were possible!), and that there's quite a few more that i feel i have absolutely nothing in common with.

i've always told myself that if someone friended me on a REAL journal (i've gotten a couple of fake ones in my years.) that i would add them back and keep them on my friends list for forever and ever amen, no matter what. if they choose to keep me on THEIR friends list, who am i to keep them from reading? it's not like i post overly sensitive stuff in this journal, anyway (i reserve that for other places...)

but i'm finding that i spend more and more of my time on this journal versus other, more reclusive ones.

so i'm certain that your next question is.. "so, aubrey.... if you are overwhelmed at the number of friends on your list, why on earth do you keep whoring yourself out for more?"

well, i respond with this:

each and every time that i have 'whored' myself out in adding communities, i have met SO many people that deeply intrigued me, that inspired me, that i ended up being very close to. i would not have met them otherwise. granted, i've met some others that i just can't seem to click with, or that i never feel i ever have anything intelligent to say in response to their posts. this does not mean that i don't find them intelligent or inspiring - they just seem to be inspiring in other ways, i suppose.

so if i cut you, it's nothing personal, i promise. maybe in the grand scheme of things, we are meant to be friends, just not yet. i always felt that timing is everything. sometimes, people meet in the middle and don't overly get along well, split up for awhile or don't run across each other in years, and suddenly, they just *click*. something that they had learned in their life lessons helped them to glean from each other the friendship that they needed/was ready for, in that point in time.

welp, i'm just rambling.

but if i do end up carrying through with the cut, it may be a few days/weeks before i am done, as 400+ friends is a lot to go through one by one to decipher whether or not we're ready for each other.

or whatever.

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talkingpotato
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:01 pm (UTC)
I just know I'm the first to go, you are SICK of me commenting aren't you? Just 'blah blah blah' on your journal ALL the time!! ;-)
ornotmajestic
Sep. 27th, 2005 10:12 pm (UTC)
Considering that you and I are the top commenters, I'm pretty sure we will be the first to go. I think we annoy her. ;)
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capitalsax
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:02 pm (UTC)
Hey, cut if you gotta cut. I think we all understand. I am really good about reading, but not the best commenter in the world, so no hard feelings either way. :)
aubkabob
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:07 pm (UTC)
ha ha, i had JUST finished looking at your journal and saying 'i'm so not cutting capitalsax! good people!'

so neener. the only way you're going to get rid of me is if you delete me first ;)
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grlleastlikely
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:08 pm (UTC)
400? i couldn't imagine trying to read through journals.
haizle
Sep. 27th, 2005 09:14 pm (UTC)
That's what I'm screamin!
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toomuchfashion
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:16 pm (UTC)
Please don't cut me! I know I don't comment much, but I love your journal :)
aubkabob
Oct. 15th, 2006 09:25 pm (UTC)
pish. no matter what happens, you're so not going anywhere!

and i will take a year to respond to it to enforce my statement!
(Anonymous)
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:19 pm (UTC)
Good grief! 400 friends? Damn, that's a lot of people to keep up with. I sometimes feel like I'm spreading myself thin with only a little over ten, heh.
dorei
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:26 pm (UTC)
It's because of those random IM's I keep posting, isn't it.
mmebutterfly
Sep. 28th, 2005 06:05 am (UTC)
haha LOVE the icon. It's because we're all 15-17 year olds and this makes us feel cool.

bitslapper
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:26 pm (UTC)
oh *I* see how it is... you *JUST* begin to comment in my journal, and now i'm on the chopping block...

*sob*

is it working?
geminigirl
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:28 pm (UTC)
400 friends? I can't imagine keeping up with that many journals.

I think you were one of the first people I didn't know in real life or from some other forum whose journal I started reading. Something menstrual, years and years ago.
aubkabob
Oct. 15th, 2006 09:31 pm (UTC)
ha ha, it's amazing that you remember the menstrual ;) but then again, i'm always posting something tmi... just part of who i am, i spose ;)

silly biological functions.
a_muse_d
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:39 pm (UTC)
well, someone i know in person recently deleted me from their friends lists, so.. fuck, whatever. too bad if you do, since commenting back and forth has been fun.
aubkabob
Sep. 27th, 2005 09:33 pm (UTC)
*smack* you should know better than that! you are so staying!
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isis_sulis
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:41 pm (UTC)
i try to keep my list around 70, so i have no idea how you do it. i read every day but i'm horrible about posting unless i have some dreaded activity to do (see packing, cleaning, errands) or if i'm going to go see WASP and then i can't seem to shut up :)

and i'm a lousy commenter. i will understand if cut but i'll probably keep you on and read your public posts if that is cool. my journal isn't dead, it just has spurts of activity and then long periods of sloth. kind of like me ;)
kohtotherescue
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:52 pm (UTC)
well, i hope you decide not to cut me, cuz i think you're awesome, but you gotta do what you gotta do...i guess...i'd juss miss you lots :/
deadmans_diner
Sep. 27th, 2005 08:55 pm (UTC)
Do you have a goal? A number which you will striv eto reach? 100? 200? 42?
iceblink
Sep. 27th, 2005 09:00 pm (UTC)
Banning
I ban the dead journal and then they disappear. That is how I handle that.
mmebutterfly
Sep. 28th, 2005 06:05 am (UTC)
Re: Banning
How does one do that?
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belenen
Sep. 27th, 2005 09:02 pm (UTC)
quite a few dead journals on my friends list that haven't updated since 2003 (oh how i wish a purge were possible!

What do you mean, a purge? You obviously can unfriend them...
aubkabob
Oct. 15th, 2006 09:33 pm (UTC)
but then they sit on my friends of list for forever. granted, i can do a ban, but i always thought that was a bit...barbaric, almost. i mean, hell, if they return one day and try to communicate with me....

not that i expect them to, but yanno.
bostondave
Sep. 27th, 2005 09:10 pm (UTC)
well I hope you keep me on your list....
aubkabob
Oct. 15th, 2006 09:33 pm (UTC)
well, duh. you're not going anywhere.
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